Love and Marriage, Week 4
This week is our last week and we’re going to discuss whatever is on our hearts.
I have two things that I wanted to address here this week. One will seem frivolous, especially compared to the other. But I think its important to address, especially in this platform.
Blogging and Husbands.
I don’t know about you, I can only speak for myself, but I love blogging. I mean, LOVE, blogging. I’ve been blogging since 2005 and this place has become such an important piece of my life. Its where I’ve documented important memories, feelings, experiences, emotions. Its where I’ve given voice to the number of issues that are important to me. Its my journal.
And because its important to me, I need Jon on board with this piece of me. Especially as it relates to him, our marriage, and the public platform I write from. I can honestly tell you that Jon loves my blog, he loves reading my blog. Rarely does a morning go by that I don’t see him logging in from work to read any new posts. He offers feedback on posts, he’ll dialogue with me about comments, he offers support. In fact, its gotten to the point that he’ll even give me ideas for posts.
Whatever the case may be with your spouse, I HIGHLY suggest discussing blogging with him. Find out what he’s comfortable sharing with the world, whether he wants a place in it at all. And respect those feelings. Some bloggers live out their marriages on the world wide web (with the exception of finances, we’re one of them), some bloggers won’t mention their marriages at all, and some live in the in-between. None are wrong, none are right. But hopefully everyone is respecting the boundaries that each couple has set forth.
The second thing is more serious, and I believe incredibly fundamental for my marriage to succeed. It might seem “preachy” to you, and if it does, I apologize. That is certainly not my intent! This is just something that is key to keeping my marriage working.
It’s the realization that my spouse IS going to fail me, and to accept that truth with grace. There are no ands, ifs, or buts about it. Jon has failed to meet my needs countless times in our relationship, just as I have failed him. We are human, and we will continue to fail each other.
However, there is One who has never failed me. Never. Its my Lord, Jesus Christ.
I became a Christian at the young age of five years old, but didn’t really proclaim my parents faith as my own until I was in my early twenties. I went through some rebellion and some of my stories would probably shock you. But in the midst of it, even in the darkest hours, I felt God’s hand of protection over me. There were numerous circumstances when I could have easily become a statistic, but I always felt His hand. I turned back to the truth and have clung to Him ever since.
My identity in Christ is THE most important thing to me. Its not my role as a wife or mother, its not my role as sister, daughter, or friend. I am a daughter of the Most High King. And because I can go to Him with every need, every doubt, every worry, every fear, and have HIM meet those needs, I’ve freed Jon up to be human and to love me with human failings. There’s something to be said about having the pressure and expectations taken off that allows our marriage to breathe and grow. There is not a doubt in my mind that if I didn’t have Christ as my center, every other relationship I have would crumble into dust. And that includes my marriage.
Thank you for joining us on this Love and Marriage blog series. It has been a delight to get to know you all better, and some for the first time. I know that I’ve added a few new blogs that I’ve added to my reading list. I hope this series has blessed you half as much as its blessed me.